I have previously introduced you to the idea of focusing on things that are important rather than urgent. Important things will really make a difference to your life if you complete them. Doing urgent things is just being busy for the sake of being busy.
When you are busy for the sake of being busy, it's just an excuse to avoid making decisions. And as Dr. Paul says: "The definition of being alive is making decisions. If you avoid making decisions, you are less alive."
Today I'd like to introduce you to a way of getting really important thing done. Things that will get you closer to the life of your dreams.
Setting your goals
It's time to get completely unreasonable. Throw away all restraints and critical thinking for this excercise. The more you let yourself go and become unreasonable, the bigger effect this excercise will have on your life.Brainstorm and write down on paper some of your dreams for 12 months from now. It's very important to really write them down. Specifically, write down:
- 4 things you would like to have
- 4 things you woulu like to be
- 4 thing you would like to do
Take a few minutes to come up with your goals.
Now.
Ok, done? If you had trouble coming up with some of them, especially things you want to do, that's ok. It's completely normal.
It's interesting how some people keep complaining about being held back in life, but when they're asked what they're being held back from, they rarely have a good answer.
If you complain about anything yourself (even only a few times a day), you might want to try the 21-day no complaint experiment. It can be a really lifechanging experience.
Acting upon your goals
Ok, let's review your goals. The first step is to convert the things you'd like to be into things you can do. Things you want to be are just disguised things you can do. For example "being a great cook" becomes "preparing a thanksiving dinner".Next pick three of your goals that will really make a difference in your life. If you achieve them, your life will never be the same, or you'll have a memory of a lifetime. This will let you focus on things that are really really important.
Next come up with three actions that will get you closer to your goals. Come up with things you can do:
- immediately
- tomorrow
- after tomorrow
That isn't to say that I don't have great goals that will take years to complete, but I find specific actions that get me closer every week.
If you haven't found three specific actions to do for each of your main goals, do so now.
Now that you have 3 actions for each of your goals, it's time to do them. For the ones to do immediately, get started on them within 5 minutes of finishing reading this article.
For the ones to be done tomorrow, finish them before noon, unless that's absolutely impossible (e.g. it involves someone you'll meet later in the day). For the ones for after tomorrow, also finish them before noon.
If you keep it up and finish all of your actions you wrote down, you will find that you moved a lot closer to your dreams in three days than you normally do in weeks or even months.
Setting your goals to do right now and in very near future is a great way to get yourself moving forward. In fact, instead of using a 12-month timeline for my goals, I prefer to use 6-month and even 3-month sometime. I find it keeps me going towards my goals more quickly.
The whole point of this excercise was to get you to do things that are important.
In our culture there is a big emphasis on being busy. People will want you to do things that aren't important just to keep you busy for the sake of being busy. You will find that if you consciously strive to do things that are important for you, your life will be moving forward at an amazing pace.
